Comments on: Having Better Conversations http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/ Where different threads come together Thu, 24 Sep 2009 00:26:00 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Trish http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-8076 Trish Sun, 19 Aug 2007 14:09:49 +0000 http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-8076 My husband and I got together with another couple recently...talk about coming away unsatisified with the conversation!!! I'll be in the middle of talking to her and she'll turn her head and jump into the middle of her husband and my husband's conversation. What can I do to command her attention?? My husband and I got together with another couple recently…talk about coming away unsatisified with the conversation!!! I’ll be in the middle of talking to her and she’ll turn her head and jump into the middle of her husband and my husband’s conversation. What can I do to command her attention??

]]> By: Eliza http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-48 Eliza Tue, 19 Sep 2006 00:24:09 +0000 http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-48 Craig - could it be because the humour is ill-timed or the subject of the humour is not appropriate perhaps? Craig – could it be because the humour is ill-timed or the subject of the humour is not appropriate perhaps?

]]> By: Craig G. http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-43 Craig G. Sun, 17 Sep 2006 17:23:56 +0000 http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-43 I really want to have good conversation with people but I just never know what to talk about. I'm a very joking sort of person and I like to fit a little humor in to my life when ever I can but this hurt my coversations because my partner gets mad that I'm not being serious. I really want to have good conversation with people but I just never know what to talk about. I’m a very joking sort of person and I like to fit a little humor in to my life when ever I can but this hurt my coversations because my partner gets mad that I’m not being serious.

]]> By: Eliza D http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-42 Eliza D Tue, 12 Sep 2006 14:55:50 +0000 http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-42 PY - this is probably because of your heavily tech leanings where solutions are everything! PY – this is probably because of your heavily tech leanings where solutions are everything!

]]> By: pickyin http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-40 pickyin Tue, 12 Sep 2006 02:51:15 +0000 http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-40 I'm generally a bad listener and have the habit of interupting and coming up with solutions before my poor conversation partner can even finish venting. However, recently I met someone who can go on and on and on (if I try to cut in, he will still continue talking). I think I'm getting better at listening because of him. :) I’m generally a bad listener and have the habit of interupting and coming up with solutions before my poor conversation partner can even finish venting.

However, recently I met someone who can go on and on and on (if I try to cut in, he will still continue talking). I think I’m getting better at listening because of him. :)

]]> By: Eliza D http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-38 Eliza D Mon, 11 Sep 2006 14:10:11 +0000 http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-38 Najah - I never met anyone so self-aware during conversations. My mind wanders too, at times, but only if what the other person is saying is raising red flags here and there. Najah – I never met anyone so self-aware during conversations. My mind wanders too, at times, but only if what the other person is saying is raising red flags here and there.

]]> By: Najah http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-35 Najah Sun, 10 Sep 2006 18:00:46 +0000 http://thehaberdashery.wordpress.com/2006/09/07/conversations/#comment-35 My conversation monitor consists of the following: 1. I counter - how many times I use the word I in my conversation. If it feels like too many, it probably is. Unless the premise of the conversation is "I have a problem, I need to talk to you about it.". 2. Silent mind - if I find myself composing a sentence as the other person is still finishing hers, then I know I'm not listening. I've found the best way to be a listener is to do it over coffee. When the other person is talking, take a sip. It helps keep your mind (and ears) from straying. Although... if you're having your conversation in a busy cafe with lots of interesting people buzzing by, sit facing the person and the wall. My conversation monitor consists of the following:

1. I counter – how many times I use the word I in my conversation. If it feels like too many, it probably is. Unless the premise of the conversation is “I have a problem, I need to talk to you about it.”.

2. Silent mind – if I find myself composing a sentence as the other person is still finishing hers, then I know I’m not listening.

I’ve found the best way to be a listener is to do it over coffee. When the other person is talking, take a sip. It helps keep your mind (and ears) from straying. Although… if you’re having your conversation in a busy cafe with lots of interesting people buzzing by, sit facing the person and the wall.

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